- deadbeef79000@lemmy.nzEnglish14 days
Ref: “what are you, as his parent, going to do about it?”
Parent: “well, he really likes the movies, so I think I’ll take him to see the lastest blockbuster.”
- Tar_Alcaran@sh.itjust.worksEnglish14 days
Have a good about when it’s acceptable to use violence, and then buy him icecream.
- myyass@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
Ugh this is become such an issue when typing anything on a smartphone; it sure really likes to put words in for you… or leave them out.
- Buddahriffic@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
I don’t know if it’s voyager or my keyboard app but I’ve noticed sometimes when I swipe type a word, it inserts the desired word but then sticks the cursor in front of the word instead of after it so any new text would go before the word and it gets pushed to the end of the message if I don’t catch it.
- wuffah@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
Sure, when your son punches someone on the opposing team during a kid’s hockey game he’s “defending his teammates honor”, but when I do it I’m “assaulting a minor” and “not allowed within 300 feet of a school” by a so-called “judge”.
I thought this was America!
- sdfric88@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish14 days
When my nephew was a little kid he got suspended from school. My sister and her husband were working, but I was still in university so I offered to go pick him up. Turns out he’d done exactly this on the playground so I took him to McDonald’s and bought him Lego on his day off.
14 daysThe correct solution is to wait for the game to start, then wait for that player to get the puck. And that’s when you go in for as solid a body check as you can. Once they get the puck it becomes fair game to check them and you won’t get in trouble for it.
It’s like a boxing match: you wait until you’re in the ring and the bell dings before laying in to them.- 13 days
Eh. I agree with the sentiment, but it’s weaker behavior than the instant punch. You implicitly agree that “fucking whore” is an insult, if you do that.
- prole@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish13 days
People are acting like this doesn’t happen in pro hockey sometimes too.
I haven’t actually watched it in many years but I used to be a big fan, and every now and then someone would do or say something so egregious, that they’d get sucker punched (or something worse like slashed in the face with a hockey stick). And the person who did it would usually get kicked out of the game for it. But his teammates and the fans that knew what was up would support them as they skated off.
- 13 days
The intent to insult, is an insult itself, sure.
But the content may be, or not be. The “fucking whore” insult, as content, is a misogynistic insult.
- rautapekoni@sopuli.xyzEnglish13 days
Weaker behavior? I do applaud the kid putting the aspiring frat bro in his place, but equating aggression with strength is bonkers. There are other, better ways for educating fools than a damn sucker punch.
- 13 days
There are other, better ways for educating fools than a damn sucker punch.
No.
- rautapekoni@sopuli.xyzEnglish12 days
Fuck off. By this logic it’s ok for anyone to just walk around punching people that offend their moral views, sensible or not.
- 12 days
By this logic it’s ok for anyone to just walk around punching people that offend their moral views.
No.
It’s not about offending moral views in abstract. It’s about specific assholes that put their “moral views” into violent action. When someone is violent, it’s proof they don’t see their victim as a person.
Therefore it IS ok for anyone to just walk around punching people who instigate oppressive violence.
Also, please don’t fall for the paradox of tolerance, I will lose a lot of respect for you.
Those people should be punched.
- 14 days
Exactly this. The fuckstick needs to know why he got hit.
- Katana314@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
As sly as this is, I like the other guy’s response.
It’s important to deliver immediacy. Also important to show public courage towards the act. “I assert, in full view of everyone, this is the right action and I deserve no consequences for it.”
You may still be punished, but it’s still important you make the statement.
- Jax@sh.itjust.worksEnglish13 days
It also gets him knocked out of the game and prevents him from supporting the girl when this chud inevitably tries to slam her
- Hathaway@lemmy.zipEnglish13 days
If you’re in highschool. You can’t check until pretty late in learning the game.
- dreamkeeper@lemmy.worldEnglish12 days
We were body checking in middle school. Maybe it’s different now.
- Hathaway@lemmy.zipEnglish12 days
I was too. As a peewee. I think that’s like 6th or 7th grade or so. However, I was the last year that was the case for. They had switched to bantams. Which, if I remember correctly, is 8th-9th grade. So, still on the bubble. Not sure if it’s changed since then.
- 13 days
Fuck I thought hockey was like, the only sport other than boxing where you’re supposed to punch them.
- prole@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish13 days
I think a pro hockey player would get kicked out of a game for sucker punching a player at face off.
They can fight, but there’s a sort of “gentlemen’s agreement” that is usually consensual and happens after face off. Referees will often even give them space to duke it out.
Unless someone on the other team did something really fucked up, then all bets are off (and you take the suspension for sucker punching them lol).
- 13 days
Yeah, there’s a lot of unwritten rules about where the lines are drawn on legitimate play for competitive advantage in the sport itself, to dirty play that veers into being about hurting someone rather than playing good offense/defense, socially acceptable fighting that is part of the broader game, and is penalized within the rules of the game by the refs on the ice, to socially unacceptable fighting that warrants league intervention after the game for suspensions and the like.
It can still be worth it, but we gotta place each act in the appropriate category.
- ILikeBoobies@lemmy.caEnglish13 days
In the NHL it’s fine. Actually if a penalty has already been called against you then you can do anything you want.
- FlexibleToast@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
Absolutely not. You can definitely receive an ejection and a game misconduct which would prevent you from playing in the next game as well.
- ElChinchilla@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
In highschool an opponent coach called one of my team mates the n word. I told the coach I was going to kill him. Referee decided the fouls canceled one another. Wish I had drop kicked that fucking cunt instead.
- xtr0n@sh.itjust.worksEnglish13 days
Drop kicking someone while on skates would be fucking impressive.
Some states have “fighting words” clauses in their statutes or case law that stipulate when someone’s held less accountable for an otherwise clear-cut Assault/Battery.
If what you say is obviously an attempt to get under someone’s skin to make them throw the first punch it essentially blames you for the fight.
Of course the devil’s in the details, but rumor has it those exceptions exist.
If it were me, I’d hope I’d have the courage to risk my job to use some Discretion in an event like that without clear statute/case law backing up a Fighting Words issue, but I never handled a case like that so we can never be sure.
- Ex-cop
Just mentioned “fighting words” in another comment. But those words weren’t directed to the attacker, so would that still count?
That question exceeds the scope of my training, experience, and rumor I heard on the job from other cops, so your web search would be as good as mine.
I’m 99% sure I was never trained on it, 100% sure I never saw it applied, and such a scenario never came up in the rumor mill.
The insulter didn’t threaten the girl, so he’s clear. The boy is guilty of battery, no defense of others here.
OTOH, “fucking whore” could be considered “fighting words”, but I have no idea how that works if directed at another person. 🤷🏼♂️
- Bytemeister@lemmy.worldEnglish12 days
Being legal doesn’t mean being right. Some crimes are worth the punishment.
That’s nice. This part of the discussion is about how the law views this event.
And fuck the guy that asked! Typical lemmy, downvoting questions.
- ElChinchilla@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
Idk i was 17 and the coach was old. I’m glad it didnt go much further because it would have not ended at all well.
- myyass@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
It reminds me when I decked a kid in martial arts class because he made a yo mama joke. There were no consequences for me lol
- PetDinosaurs@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
I did something similar in school. Laid out the kid making fun of me.
We were in pads and helmets. It was middle school chickens establishing the pecking order.
Kid was more abusive than most and picking on me in particular. Put him on the ground, made it clear that this would not be tolerated.
Then I caught up with the running drill.
That’s kinda the attitude that is cultivated for success in athletics.
Why did he even get kicked out? It’s hockey. Fighting is only 5 minutes in the box.
- nibbler@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish13 days
I watched a fight once, and suddenly a hockey game broke out.
For the pros, yes. But for all youth hockey (at least in the US) it’s an immediate game misconduct.
- glimse@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
Lol, he didn’t get kicked out…UnfilteredMama posted it on twitter. It never happened to begin with.
Not every league allows fighting, some leagues don’t even allow checking
- ClownStatue@piefed.socialEnglish13 days
Youth hockey leagues are pretty strict about no fighting. Younger leagues have no checking, for obvious reasons. As you get older, it gets more physical.
Personally, I disagree with the punch. Takes you out of the game when you and the rest of your team can just mark that guy as an asshole and make his day absolutely suck. For everyone saying, but he won’t know why: he’ll know. Plus, you can simply call him a whore every time you hit him. A dirty hit when he has the puck is 2 or 4 in the sin bin, and you get to hit him again later. A single punch is just that, and it’s all over.
- Rekorse@sh.itjust.worksEnglish13 days
Its also absurd because its heavily gendered. If someone called a male teammate a fucking whore we would laugh at them, take note that they are clearly salty, and fuck with them the rest of the game. If it was the girl who punched the guy in the face it would at least make more sense.
Personally, I wouldnt cheer my own kid on for punching someone in the face and getting kicked out of the game. That type of problem solving shows a lack of creativity and compassion.
- ClownStatue@piefed.socialEnglish13 days
Agreed. The more I’ve thought about the more I think the comments are mostly a bunch of neck beards proud the kid “defended her honor.” As if she ever asked him to do that. What if it had been a girl on the other team calling his teammate the same thing? Girls can be brutal in their chirping. “Fucking whore” is pretty tame compared to what I’ve heard collegiate female rugby players call one another. Im all for the team ganging up on an asshole player playing like an asshole, but players in just about any team sport constantly shit talk their opponents. Somehow the other guy crossed a line by treating a girl the same as he presumably would any other player on the ice? If he singled her out, fine. Chirp back, or ignore it. And the one comment calling it bullying? Gimme a break. It wasn’t even said to her. Tell the guy to fuck off, score on him and give him a good hip check next time you can get away with it.
I’m on the fence. On the one side I despise a society that resorts to violence to solve problems. This is primitive. Then again it sure feels like some people don’t learn another way. Doesn’t mean it’s good.
Mhm, a story to remember for sure.
- 13 days
It’s anecdotal, but I was bullied mercilessly when I was a big, fat sixth grader by this pack of fifth graders who would run up behind me during lunchtime in the playground, kick me, and run away. This went on for some time until one day I happened to turn around at just the right second and caught this little shit by the name of Cory Rodgerson.
I took a big, wide swing and smacked him upside the head as hard as I could. One punch. I vividly remember (probably partly falsely given the forty years that have passed) him spinning, falling over, and then bawling his eyes out. I felt horrible about it, but you know what? Him and his group of cronies never bullied me again.
He learned that actions have consequences, and I learned that violence sucks, but sometimes it does solve problems. Was there a better solution? Probably, but telling my teachers and parents had had no effect, so what else was I supposed to do about it? I also did not grow up to be violent, and in fact have never gotten into any kind of physical altercation as an adult, so maybe it was a good lesson for me, too.
- DudleyMason@lemmy.mlEnglish13 days
Then again it sure feels like some people don’t learn another way.
That’s because they don’t. Because the lesson they need to learn isn’t “people don’t like that behavior” it’s “that behavior will have swift and severe consequences”.
To renounce the use of violence as a method of conflict resolution is to utterly surrender to those who have not and will not.
- rangber@lemmy.zipEnglish13 days
Disagree, sometimes we have go go back to the fundamental. Looks around, shitty people aren’t get punched enough.
- chiliedogg@lemmy.worldEnglish13 days
It’s hockey. Punching someone in the face is how you express your feelings.
- Toga77@lemmy.worldEnglish12 days
We all had history classes.
Violence is the most effective tool the working class has by a country mile so they don’t get devoured by the wealthys politics and bullshit.
Regulations for business are quite literally often written in blood.
Violence is the last thing some people even understand. Sure it should be a last resort most of the time.
On the other hand Cornell, frats, and the fact that women are sexually assaulted at disturbing rates.
I’d punch an openly misogynistic person too. We’ve spent too many decades not punching shitty people, now we have fascists popping up all over again.
- 13 days
Then that hockey game wasn’t valuable. Fuck toxic enviroments as these that ban the ones who do the only correct thing to do.
- Krankenwagen@lemmy.worldEnglish12 days
Hey, violence isn’t the answer, let alone “the only correct thing to do”.
Edit: you all are real tough guys for advocating that the rude child in this totally true story get beat up. What a bunch of losers.
- leMe@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish13 days
we had an ‘airforce’ player in our team. he usually was only on the field, if the other team played dirty. the most dirty opponent would have a painful clash with our ‘airforce’. the game usually was a bit more civilised after that.
was it the right thing to do? probably not. would we have sent the ‘airforce’ if the referee had stopped dirty plays earlier? definitely not! did it protect other players from going home with injuries? yes!
so no, violence is not the only correct thing to do. but it is a way to achieve certain goals. sometimes fire has to be fought with fire.
- leMe@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish13 days
he made sure we controlled who went flying and who not.
guess he could also have been called “Air Traffic Control”…
Are you trying to say enforcer? I’m plenty familiar with the concept but your word choice is confusing.
- Rekorse@sh.itjust.worksEnglish13 days
Hockey is weird, its sort of expected that the players use violence to keep each others behavior in check.
- 13 days
Lmao, “violence is not the answer”. It is. When other people like that fucking asshole kiddo were, then it’s the only acceptable thing to do. “Don’t do unto others what you don’t want done unto yourself”.
They need to understand that their shit has consequences, or else bigotry will never end.
- Krankenwagen@lemmy.worldEnglish10 days
Id disagree with you if we were talking about an adult but as we are talking about a kid I would say you are outting yourself as some sort of predator or abuser with that mentality. There can be consequences that are non-violent, violence just propagates more violence. Interesting that you took a popular phrase, changed it so that it has a different meaning, then tried to use it as evidence for your case. Get support, you don’t have to be so violent.
Bigotry is as old as humanity.
It will never end. I would bet that you’re bigoted against a variety of people, too. It’s all around us; most people have a “narrow-minded intolerance of beliefs opposed to them”.
Especially here on Lemmy.
