Telegram and Signal are just as centralised and vulnerable as Meta (to censorship, political blackmailing, metadata collection to incriminate its users, …), just don’t? Federated is much more resilient, and with Matrix being essentially an indiscriminate metadata aggregation and replication engine, prefer XMPP.

Wow, as someone who has been hosting XMPP for family for 10+ years and only liking it, I’m amazed by the overwhelmingly supportive comments for it, it’s like people are recovering from a Matrix hangover and rediscovering the things they already had for their merit. So yeah that’s my +1: XMPP is really something dependable, it just works, and the sysadmin story is great too (my preference goes to ejabberd for the best “turnkey” experience, but you can’t go wrong with prosody either if you are willing to read some guide).

Prosody is a great piece of software, and so is ejabberd which offers some perks. I can’t speak for the other servers (mongooseim, openfire, tigase, …) which I haven’t tried in a long time,

All that’s to say that it’s amazing that we get so many well maintained and compatible servers (and clients) implementations in XMPP-land, and all the implications for its healthy future.