100% agree with you. Many of these parents just see their children as a reflection on their own character and morals instead of being proud of the person they raised.
Good for you! It’s a hard step and people don’t always seem to understand how a child can cut ties with a parent. They never what those parent/child relationships are like leading up to going no contact with parents.
Yep, I’ve had folks tell me I’m a bad daughter for not having a relationship with my mother. They lost their wonderful mom to cancer and would love to have their mom back so obviously I should want to have my mom in my life, but they fail to realize that not all moms are wonderful like their own was. Even after explaining my circumstances, I’ve still heard “but she’s your mom and you should talk to her” like that means I have not tried for a decade to talk to her about how she makes me feel and that I am required to put up with her wreaking havoc on my mental health.
Also, protip: she’s always going to behave that way.
I’m fully aware of this unfortunately. She knows the things she has to do to have her children in her life, I’ve flat out told her what to do. She refuses to do something as simple as apologize, so she runs around telling everyone that her kids hate her for no reason. It’s the missing missing reasons factor 🤷♀️
My relationship with my sibling means far more to me than my relationship with my mother anymore. Sibling is a dork and can tease me, but ultimately is supportive and doesn’t judge me the way mom does.
Yes, I believe I have and recently too.
A post came up about sexism and someone mentioned the wage gap. Men always go to the talking point of “well women don’t want the hard and dirty jobs, men do all that work”. So I mentioned my experience as a woman trying to become an electrician:
I overheard another electrician and the foreman talking about my body in a way that made me know I was unsafe around those men. Speaking about how I’m not “woman enough” because I have short hair or the things they would do to my body without my permission to make me a “real womantm”.
I received a direct message from someone saying that they reached out to women they knew in the trades who confirmed my experience was not unique. It was just not something they thought about and it’s not talked about enough or pushed back on when talking about the gender wage gap.
Women enjoy working in trades but we are sexually harassed and assaulted out of these spaces and it has nothing to do with “men do all the hard work”.